Today With Your Wife
OK, new guy here (long time JoCo fan, but have never spent any time in the forums), but this is the only place I can think of I can talk about this with people who will care. :P
To me, this is the best of the new songs by far... but what really gets me is the remarks he makes at the Northampton show (in chicazul's YT vid) about how "I'm not exactly sure what's going on in this song... you can interpret it yourself..."
So the setup, with the "sad song" and the title, makes it seem (to me at least) like this is some guy cheating on the father and husband... but after listening several times, I think there is a totally different way to take this song: that the father/husband is dead, and his friend is spending time with the widow and kids. The "speaker" in the song knows the widow - it had been a long time since they had a good talk - and now, after this actually pretty good day together, the speaker is telling his friend about how it went.... just thought you should know. The father should have been there, for this wonderful time - but he can't be, because he's gone. I guess maybe he could have taken off or something, but to me it just makes sense that the father is dead. After all, she'd never say... you should have been there. To me this reading makes a lot more sense, because it just seems odd to me that someone who's cheating with someone's wife would be singing such a bittersweet song.
Of course, as with any good songwriter, I expect we can't get JoCo to commit on just what is going on here - but this is my take on it. As you can see, I'm dying to talk about this, and so here I am posting for the first time. What do people think? Am I barking mad here, or are others getting the same sort of sense from this wonderful new song? Anyone else have a different take on it?
To me, this is the best of the new songs by far... but what really gets me is the remarks he makes at the Northampton show (in chicazul's YT vid) about how "I'm not exactly sure what's going on in this song... you can interpret it yourself..."
So the setup, with the "sad song" and the title, makes it seem (to me at least) like this is some guy cheating on the father and husband... but after listening several times, I think there is a totally different way to take this song: that the father/husband is dead, and his friend is spending time with the widow and kids. The "speaker" in the song knows the widow - it had been a long time since they had a good talk - and now, after this actually pretty good day together, the speaker is telling his friend about how it went.... just thought you should know. The father should have been there, for this wonderful time - but he can't be, because he's gone. I guess maybe he could have taken off or something, but to me it just makes sense that the father is dead. After all, she'd never say... you should have been there. To me this reading makes a lot more sense, because it just seems odd to me that someone who's cheating with someone's wife would be singing such a bittersweet song.
Of course, as with any good songwriter, I expect we can't get JoCo to commit on just what is going on here - but this is my take on it. As you can see, I'm dying to talk about this, and so here I am posting for the first time. What do people think? Am I barking mad here, or are others getting the same sort of sense from this wonderful new song? Anyone else have a different take on it?
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By the way, welcome, PonderousMan. This is clearly the right place to dissect minutiae of JoCo's songs. (:
Credit where credit is due, as well: the videos were taken and posted to the forum by edrud; I was just the first to upload them to YouTube for a wider audience!
Giving a new friend a peck on the cheek and saying you'll call doesn't have to mean anything more either. It's probably just a horse!
ETA: Even if they exchanged phone numbers during the conversation, I don't think they could have only just met, because of these lines:
The wife's kids were there splashing in the puddles. Normal for a romantic interlude in the rain?
I'm curious about the bridge.
Stupid car stuck in the snow
Getting home, too late to go
I'm not saying anything
Just thought you'd want to know
I'm not sure what it all means. We know at the end of the song that it's a warm sunny day so what's with the snow? What's he not saying and who does he think would like to know?
"...to me its a nearly perfect example of how stories can be told in songs. You never know exactly what happened, but you get glimpses through all these tiny verbal gestures. The title itself says so much without being at all specific. I like to try to fill in the gaps theres something about a friend, a wife, and a betrayal, but also something more complicated and private."
The fact that Jonathan says he's not sure what's going on in the song tells us that there is no "right" answer.
When I first heard it, my own interpretation was that the husband is not dead, but their marriage is in trouble. The wife and the narrator are old friends, but not romantically involved. He's standing there having a nice talk with her and having a lovely time, and saying to the husband "hey, it really should be YOU here having a great time with your wife, not me." The line "Everyone seemed okay, But then she'd never say" refers to her and the children, suffering a bad marriage in silence.
But hey, I could be wrong. I kind of like the "dead husband" interpretation now, too....
Everyone seemed OK, but then she'd never say
You should have been there
For me, this clinches that the husband is absent (and that the woman misses him), but there's still plenty of ambiguity left. I think the double meaning of the chorus is central to the song. It can be part of "We talked about you and she really loves you, it was inspiring; you should have been there", but it can also be accusatory. "You should have been there for her."
As for the bridge, the only interpretation I've come up with that makes half a lick of sense is that it may be describing the narrator's reasons for spending the night (with all the lurid implications) at the wife's house. It would at least explain the contradictions in the last two lines ("I'm not saying anything" "Just thought you should now") - the narrator feels guilty and can't bring himself to admit he's sleeping with her, but still feels compelled to admit it to the absent (possibly dead) husband.
Of course, that doesn't really fit with "It's been too long since we had a good talk", so I'm sure I'm quite wrong.
That's my current take.
I like the "dead husband" interpretation as well. It's somehow sadder and less depressing at the same time. And I definitely agree with the folks who say that the plot ambiguity is intentional.
I don't think that the husband has to be dead or gone for him to be "absent." And I don't think the woman is necessarily telling this guy how much she loves her husband. At the same time, I don't think there's any adultery going on. I think it's two friends, and she's telling him about her marital troubles. "You shoulda been there," to me, means "Hey, guy. She should be talking to *you*, not me." Thematically, I feel like this song is related to Shop Vac. And in that sense, it's heartbreaking.
EDIT:
Everyone seemed OK, but then she'd never say
You should have been there
Or maybe she's being vague, and our narrator is reading between the lines.